We’ve all heard the inspirational quotes like negative in, negative out, positive in, positive out. Some think these types of sayings are hooey (yes, I just used hooey, a much under used word). These types of phrases make a lot of sense to me, and are necessary to keep my overactive imagination in check. They also help me focus more on the positive aspects of a situation.
You see, I’m a worrier. I’m not an every day the sky is falling worrier. However, when something happens I cannot understand, cannot fix on my own, and cannot control, I worry. I worry about the hundred questions that race through my mind. You know what I’m talking about, the what if.
I bring this up because I’m in the midst of playing this what if mind game with myself. This morning I started to wind myself up again and began to worry when I decided to thumb through some old quotes. It said that the words we speak, no matter if meant innocently, can have an impact on not only that moment, but that day, and even long term. Again, negative in, negative out.
Example: How are you today? Answer: Not so great. Now here is where the quote comes into play. After you say your answer, add “and that’s just the way I want it.” Example again: How are you today? Answer: Not so great, and that’s just the way I want it.” You see where this is going.
So, to get out of my what if state of mind and be more positive about the situation I have going on, I will be thinking this quote and keep myself in a better place.
Update: I originally wrote this entry on Tuesday, here it is the weekend, and my situation has not been resolved. However, the statement, “and that’s just the way I want it”, has proved a very good tool against the what if’s.